Jim Henderson wrote:
On Wed, 02 Dec 2020 14:15:47 -0500, Patrick Shanahan wrote:
direction and intent should be necessary for deeming something socially unacceptable, not using the words.
you must not wear your feelings on your shirt sleeves but accept that in most usage the speaker is not intending to HARM YOUR FEELINGS.
Right. "Being kind" also (to me) means "assume someone has the best intentions rather than the worst - until proven otherwise".
To me, the suggestion "be kind" implies "for he knows not any better" (I sense biblical undertones). It does not really assume much about anyone's intentions.
get over it, you choose what offends you, not i/me/us/we/... and we do not necessarily feel the same.
Yes and no. If someone tells you "this thing you're doing is offensive or hurtful to me", the proper thing to do is to accept that, acknowledge it, and don't do it again.
While I cannot entirely disagree with that idea, the idea of someone actually telling me "this thing you're doing is offensive or hurtful to me" - that is pretty offensive or hurtful to me. -- Per Jessen, Zürich (0.4°C) Member, openSUSE Heroes