On 06/27/2014 01:32 PM, Jim Henderson wrote:
It's been my experience over the years that this is the better way to handle it. I can't ever remember seeing anyone respond to a person causing a problem on these mailing lists with aggression and them backing down. It has *always* escalated the situation and made things worse, without exception. This is particularly true with known toxic personalities whose only mission in life seems to be to be disruptive. They thrive on the attention they get when people start yelling back at them, and it poisons the entire list. That is part of the reason I've limited my participation on this particular list. Coming in here and seeing people who are ostensibly adults yelling things at each other like "but he started it!" doesn't make me feel like this list is where adult conversations go on. My advice: Ignore them and let the list admin handle them. Since the list admins need to know, just report it privately and let them sort it out. The following is not directed at any particular individual: I don't really give a damn who started it. It's disheartening - not fun - to see adults behave like children. If I wanted to see this kind of behaviour, I'd go read the comments section on a news website. Hell, I've seen better behaviour amongst kids in a schoolyard. If you must disagree with someone (and we certainly should not all be in complete agreement about everything!), do it without being disagreeable, offensive, or engaging in personal attacks. You're not impressing anyone by doing that, and you're certainly not making the person you disagree with respect your opinion by throwing a tantrum like a two-year-old. Focus on the issue, not the person. If you're focusing on the person, your focus is in the wrong place for *any* of these mailing lists, IMNSHO. Jim shame facedly admitting you are 100% correct Jim.
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