* Knurpht-openSUSE <knurpht@opensuse.org> [06-04-23 11:26]:
Op zondag 4 juni 2023 02:45:50 CEST schreef Jim Henderson:
On Fri, 02 Jun 2023 22:42:26 +0000, Wouter Onebekend wrote:
Do we really want to live like that? Walk on eggshells at all times? I for one don't.
It's really not that difficult. Treat people with respect, and own it and apologize, sincerely, when you hurt someone.
You can't control others' reactions. You can control yours, so control what you can.
That means (for example), when you misgender someone and are corrected, accept the correction, apologize for the error, and then don't do it again. Same with deadnaming (using a name that someone no longer uses).
The vast majority will appreciate that you're at least trying, at least, that's what I've found. I'm still learning, for sure, but making the effort really counts for the vast majority.
As a non-LGBTQ example of this, I recently ran into a former high-school classmate in a professional setting. I knew him as "Bob". He no longer uses that name, he prefers "Robert". I noticed that nobody was calling him "Bob", so I didn't. I called him "Robert" and didn't make a big deal about it - didn't call out that when I knew him in school, he was "Bob", I just went with it.
So if Alice now prefers to be identified as Bob, and is using "he/him" or "they/their" as their pronouns, *use it*. Don't argue with them about it. Give them the respect and dignity of being called by their preferred name and gender identity.
This is nowhere near as difficult as writing solid code. ;) It is indeed as simple as that.
then why not go back to "technology" and *drop* all the hatred? -- (paka)Patrick Shanahan Plainfield, Indiana, USA @ptilopteri http://en.opensuse.org openSUSE Community Member facebook/ptilopteri Photos: http://wahoo.no-ip.org/piwigo paka @ IRCnet oftc