To me the heart of the issue is we are a diverse group of people from a diverse set of upbringings and depending on those upbringings people may have different feelings about the best way to interpret the above and what may or may not be the best way to be inclusive. But i'm happy to agree to disagree on that.
And, to me the 'heart of the issue', is that if you (generic) have a problem with who some of our members *are*, that is on *you*. If you've been 'brought up' to be offended by, or uncomfortable with, LGBTQ+ people, or women, or minorities of any sort, then that is *your* problem. YOU are the one who needs help, and it is absolutely NOT the community or anyone else's job to make YOU comfortable. Indeed, if anything, it is OUR job, as a community to make YOU uncomfortable so that hopefully, you will change, and see the error of your ways. Emily Gonyer