On 4/11/24 15:53, Natasha Ament wrote:
Hi Simon and others,
Even though I'm not a board member I do have an opinion about "toilet humour". It has no place in an open and welcoming environment. If you want to forge a stable and caring community and strive together for a better product toilet humour is borderline bigotry. Appeasement is not something that contributes to that stable and caring community where newcomers and advanced users can exchange thoughts without name calling, insults, and threats. Letting these people roam free is a direct threat to that goal and the principles that are at the core of the CoC. I think the board needs to have a long hard look in the mirror and think if it is able to enforce the Code of Conduct. If not it is a dead letter and not worth the paper it's written on. When can those rules be not applied because it is only "Toilet Humour" and "Boys will be boys". You can't have it both ways. It's time to choose.
Kind regards,
Natasha
I absolutely agree. When the discussion started, I thought Simon missed
a good opportunity to pause, listen, and reflect. I encourage Simon to
consider how this discussion would have been different with a thoughtful
apology and some reflection.
Leadership is tough and, yet, leaders must hold themselves to higher
standards. It bothered me when I read that Richard was sanctioned for
his comments when other official members are not. Double-standard is a
phrase that many would use, but I have two stronger words that I won't
use. Despite the words we would use, this is a major problem that really
needs some careful consideration.
When I was young someone told me that those who are loud, abrasive,
arrogant, etc. in public are usually the most insecure. It's not always
true, but I have found it to be a good approximation of reality. Being
kind, generous, patient, flexible, etc. is often a sign of wisdom. Those
with nothing to prove, ...well... have nothing to prove. It bothers me
that some of those who I have come to respect in my short time here are
reconsidering their involvement or feel helpless or worse. Trading quiet
wisdom for ...well... the opposite would be huge loss.
My advice anyway.
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Tony Walker